Remember that Radiohead song "Karma Police" where midway through the song it repeats: "...for a minute there, I lost myself...."?
I did, for much longer than a minute.
Moving from Vancouver to Rossland, city to small town, from ocean to mountains, has been tough. My community defined me, so when I left Vancouver, I felt like I left myself. From this came huge resistance to the change- I fought, I wallowed, I dwindled, and I grew. Amungst all of it, I discovered we are not wholly defined by our environment, and have learned to re-connect to who I am no-matter WHERE I am.
What I also learned, is that to truly move through change we must acknowledge it. When we experience a change in our life, there is always something gained and something lost. And acknowledging this is not an easy process. There are some truths about transition that I'm certain were passed on to me before, but, like anything, until we've lived it, we never truly GET it.....
Honour what you've lost. Change can be as simple as landing a new job or as complex as losing a loved one. So whether it was an old job, an old car, an old home, or a dear old friend, mourn the loss. Cry if you need to, get mad or laugh, do a dance, light a candle, or say good riddance. At the very least recognize it. Remember the good times, hold in your heart the memories you want to take with you and move on.
Celebrate what you've gained. Celebrate the new job, the new home, the new adventure- explore all of the oppourtunities. Toast to the courage and growth you have or you will gain. Maybe you don't know yet what's ahead, so celebrate the mystery and possibilities. Pop the champagne, do a dance, treat yourself to a massage- just do something to celebrate. If you've lost a loved one, think about what you gained by their presence in your life. Celebrate them.
Take the TIME to BE in transition. Without resisting and without forcing. Take a moment or a few days or a few months to just be in it- surrender to it, let it take you to the emotional places you need to go. Stay connected to yourself through your creative process, your yoga mat, meditation or even nature. Give yourself time to process, and be very patient.
Remembering these truths of change will keep you connected to you during your next transition. In turn you will enjoy feeling of ease and flow because you are simply allowing the truth of what is present for you in each moment. Here's to honouring and celebrating all transitions with integrity, courage, and patience.